otak dan penyataan negatif

the brain is not very good at handling with negative statements. in order not to do something our mind have to come up with a representation of doing it.
example: spend the next 20 seconds NOT thinking about Elvis.
what did you do ?

we gave our mind a representation of the very thing you were trying not to think of Elvis. think how much more difficult it would have been had we included a picture of Elvis on this page.
in order to make sense of the instruction, your brain deletes the word 'not' and creates a representation of what it needs to move away.

this explains why a child will often spill their drink just after they have been told 'don't spill your drink'. saying something like ' be careful with your drink' will helps the child focus on being careful rather than spilling. 'down look down !' is another example of a statement that often has the wrong effect.
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petikan dari buku 'effective NLP skills', richard youell & christina youell.
apa yang kita boleh belajar dari sini ialah minda kita lebih sukar/tidak suka kepada penyataan negatif. jadi pada kebiasaannya ia akan bertindak untuk mengabaikannya. sebab itu banyak perkara yang dilarang , lagi itulah yang kita nak buat. justeru itu, pemilihan kata yang sesuai dan positif amatlah diperlukan.

ingat lagi pesan guru saya, sebelum kita cerita tentang azab api neraka, kita ceritakan dahulu nikmat yang bakal diperoleh jika kita dikurnia surga. sebelum cerita apa yang tak boleh dilakukan dalam Islam, ceritakan dahulu ada banyak benda yang boleh dilakukan dalam Islam. sebelum cerita apa yang diharamkan, ceritakan dahulu ada lebih banyak perkara yang dihalalkan. secara di bawah sedar ianya akan membentuk lebih motivasi untuk kita jadi lebih baik.

wallahuallam.